{"id":18438,"date":"2024-08-24T08:02:00","date_gmt":"2024-08-24T08:02:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yoursafety.training\/non-categorise\/tactical-empathy\/"},"modified":"2025-06-03T07:37:41","modified_gmt":"2025-06-03T07:37:41","slug":"tactical-empathy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yoursafety.training\/en\/yoursafety-training-s-blog\/tactical-empathy\/","title":{"rendered":"Tactical empathy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><style>\/*! elementor - v3.23.0 - 05-08-2024 *\/<br \/>\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]&gt;a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style>\n<\/p>\n<p>Tactical empathy is the basis of everything.<\/p>\n<p><b>\u201cDon&#8217;t expect to win someone over if you don&#8217;t take a step towards them.\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p>In a world where communication is king, knowing how to listen is a formidable weapon. Far from being mere kindness, tactical empathy is a conscious strategy used by negotiators, intelligence officers and leaders of influence. Popularized by Chris Voss, tactical empathy makes it possible to disarm tensions, build trust and influence without manipulating.  <\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: revert;\">It&#8217;s a valuable tool in the hands of responsible <\/span><a style=\"font-size: revert;\" href=\"https:\/\/yoursafety.training\/blog\/concepts\/etre-un-professionnel-responsable\/\">responsible professionals<\/a><span style=\"font-size: revert; color: initial;\">.<\/span><\/p><\/p>\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><em><strong>The tools of tactical empathy : <\/strong><\/em><br\/><em>4 techniques to defuse any situation<\/em><\/h2>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here are 4 practical tips for applying this powerful technique on a daily basis &#8211; whether in your meetings, your personal relationships or your most tense negotiations.<\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. <strong>Mirror effect: repeat the last 3 words (or key words)<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Mirroring<\/em> involves repeating the last words spoken by the other person, in a questioning tone. This creates an immediate connection and encourages the other person to develop his or her thoughts. <\/p>\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Example:<\/strong><br\/>&#8211; \u201cI don&#8217;t think this project is viable as it stands.\u201d<br\/>&#8211; \u201cNot viable as it stands?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Result:<\/strong> you encourage the other person to pursue their objections, without confrontation.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. <strong>Label emotions<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Unacknowledged emotions often become explosive. By naming them, you deactivate their power. Use formulas like :  <\/p>\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\u201cIt seems that&#8230;\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cIt gives the impression that&#8230;\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cYou look like you&#8217;re&#8230;\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Naming an emotion out loud helps the other person feel understood, even if you don&#8217;t agree with them.<\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. <strong>Master the pause<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">After a question or statement, wait. Count in your head. Uncomfortable silence is often the space where truths emerge. Silences create a dynamic where the other feels the urge to fill the void&#8230; by talking.   <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is where the \u201cblack swans\u201d come in &#8211; those unexpected details that change everything.<\/p>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. <strong>Use the voice of night-time radio presenters<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your tone is your de-escalation tool. Voss calls it the \u201clate-night DJ voice\u201d: calm, poised, warm. It signals security and quiet authority. Use it to defuse tension and get your most important messages across.   <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Tips :<\/strong><\/p>\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Speak, gradually bringing your chin closer to your breastbone. Your voice becomes deeper (even for women). <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Use a dipping intonation to <strong>affirm <\/strong>, or a rising intonation to <strong>question<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>To sum up tactical empathy<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tactical empathy is not complacency. It&#8217;s a negotiation technique based on active understanding, used by the world&#8217;s best communicators. By applying these simple but powerful tips, you&#8217;ll transform your interactions &#8211; and get more out of them than you ever imagined.  <\/p>\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Reading the conflict,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Time management,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Openness to others,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Active listening,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Creative solutions,<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Resistance management.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In short conflict, i.e. aggression, it helps to clarify the situation <strong>so you can consciously decide on your intervention option<\/strong>. Don&#8217;t miss <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blackswanltd.com\/chris-voss\">Chriss Voss<\/a> \u201cbooks and watch <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=JLJMTWSwWy8\">Evy Poumpouras\u201d video on tactical empathy<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stay Safe!<\/p>\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tactical empathy is the basis of everything. \u201cDon&#8217;t expect to win someone over if you don&#8217;t take a step towards them.\u201d In a world where communication is king, knowing how to listen is a formidable weapon. 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