Setting a boundary means restoring limits firmly but respectfully:
- Observe the behaviour: identify precisely what’s crossing the line
- Name it clearly: “Your words/actions are crossing the (my *) line”
- State the impact: “This is creating tension within the team”
- Offer an alternative: “From now on, I need you to…”
- Stay calm: your body language needs to be consistent
Setting a boundary isn’t a punishment, it’s restoring order and shared rules. It’s an act of goodwill towards the person and the team.
PS: Yes, “Your words are crossing my line.” My emotion, my anger, my time won’t go beyond that line. You’re welcome to stay there and shout, but it’ll be without me.
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